"... but I'm not ready yet!"

posted by Lisa Ryan on Wednesday, May 26, 2021

Woman making a decision


You’ve been on the fence for a while now about moving to a 55-and-older community. You've already toured the campus with our Sales Director. You’ve seen floor plans and photos. Maybe you’ve even talked with residents.

You go back and forth: The idea of community living appeals to you, but you're afraid you'd miss your house. You’d enjoy the camaraderie, but you worry you’ll get tired of having other people around.

You weigh the options so frequently that you eventually get tired of having conversations with yourself. So one morning, when the Sales Director calls to touch base, you respond with, “I’ve decided I’m just not ready.”

You’re not alone! “I’m not ready” is a common response that can truly mean you’re not ready to move. Sometimes, though, people might just have some misconceptions about what it takes to be “ready” to make a move. We’ll address some of those here.

“I don't need senior living yet. I’ll move in later.” There's no "rule" that commands you to wait until you're older to make the move; as long as you're at least 55, you're welcome! Many of our residents moved in their 50s or 60s, and some continued to work for many years. Communities are far from the “nursing homes” of old. For many younger residents, the decision to move was about taking advantage of all the positive aspects of community living while they were young and active enough to enjoy all of them.

“I don’t want to take part in all those activities. You’re too ‘busy’ there!” When you move into a community, you’re moving into your home, and you’ll live your life exactly as you want to. Want to take advantage of our health and well-being programming? Great. Want to ease into your new life a little more gradually? That’s fine, too. You are who we are, and we respect and support you.

“I’m nervous about making such a big change.” Change is not always easy. We’re all different, and we all get nervous about different things. Think about when you were young and changed schools or jobs, or moved to a new neighborhood. If you’re thinking “What if I don’t like the people there? What if they don’t like me?” — that means you’re human. Chances are the environment will feel strange to you at first, but our community is welcoming and accessible, and it will likely feel like “home” before long.    

“I’m afraid I’ll run out of money.” That’s also a common fear — but we work hard early in the process to help you make sure the move is a good financial fit. And remember that community living will allow you to get rid of many of the expenses that you currently factor into your budget. In addition, if you should deplete your resources through no fault of your own — say, due to unexpected illness — the WesleyLife Promise ensures you will not be asked to leave your home with us because of inability to pay.

“I’m concerned my family won’t want to visit me here.” You may be remembering the way you felt about visiting “nursing homes” earlier in your life. We make it a priority to welcome families and friends to our community! Our spacious apartments, fun outdoor areas, and comfortable gathering spaces give you great places to welcome and spend time with the ones you love. Your family will enjoy your new home almost as much as you will.

“You have Independent Living, Assisted Living … all kinds of options. How do I know I’m choosing the right one?” The availability of various Levels of Living in our community helps enhance your confidence about making the best choice for your life. Many residents will move into Independent Living and stay there, happily and healthily, for many years. If they begin need a little help, they can receive it from our broad network of at-home services or look into another Level of Living. And the fact that we have an on-site Health Center means if you should become ill or sustain an injury, you can get well right here at home.

Want to learn more about the right time to move to a community? Contact our corporate Director of Sales, Ward Phillips, at (515) 669-2205 to ask questions and/or schedule a tour of any of our campuses.

About The Author

Lisa Ryan is Director of Communications for WesleyLife. 

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